As stressful as you think they are, first dates can actually be incredibly exciting and fun if you’re asking the right questions. When you get past the small talk about work and mundane questions like “where’d you go to school”? your date will be more enjoyable and more likely to lead to another date. You can find out everything you need to know about someone in the first 10 minutes of talking, so imagine all the important info you can get out of them in an hour.The next time you have a first date, take the road less traveled and use the 4 best first date questions to up your chances of making a match.
1) Who is Their Biggest Inspiration
Whether it’d be Oprah Winfrey or their mom, their personal mentor says a lot about their values in life. If they choose a sports figure or a celebrity you might not have a lot in common with their personal goals in life, whereas a scientist or family member might be more up to your speed. Asking this question outright might put them on the spot, so discuss more inspirational matters first such as their most exciting moment in life or who they’d love to play them in the movie version of their life.
2) What’s Their Most Embarrassing Moment
Depending on how they respond to the question you can tell how they react to being put in the spotlight. If they don’t want to tell you, they may be very private, which is definitely okay in this new world order of putting personal details online. If they are very open and extroverted enough to tell you something truly humiliating they you learn they have a good head on their shoulders and no regrets. From sexual problems to bedwetting, you might learn something that could be hard to shake, it’s all in the way they tell the stories about themselves that show you who they are.
3) Where They See Themselves in 5 years
It’s important to know if someone you’re on a date with sees themselves living in the same area or if they want to move the Andes and become a Sherpa. Their life goals might not fit your own, and while you should never base anyone’s answer on whether or not you’ll have a second date with this person this early, it does open up the discussion to how they feel about having a family or where they see their career taking them.
4) Why They Agreed to Go Out On a Date With You (or why they asked you)
This is pretty unconventional, but I always say honesty is the best policy. So if you flat out ask what drew them to ask you on a date (or agree to go) you guys bring the conversation back to the topic at hand: your date. You guys obviously had an attraction someway and somehow, where can it go from here? That’s for you both to figure out together. Once you point attention to the obvious, you can’t get past it. And that’s where the magic of love begins.
When you get your date to access memories and ideas that move them emotionally, they are much more likely to feel connected to you. Instead of asking the same stock questions about someone’s life, open up the possibilities for a better conversation and dig deep enough to snag that second date by using the 4 best first date questions!
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